Saturday 30 April 2011

Life on the Internet strikes again: Here today gone tomorrow,

I found a brillant site only to try - I've being raving about the Tools to Life -  and log on for me find it's down. With the nature of the internet I'd even know whether its disappeared or just down. It was a free site. This is not good.

It is or now was a 90 day free life coaching program and I did about 30 days. I was looking forward to doing it everyday. Such is life on the internet - here today gone tomorrow. :-(

Tuesday 26 April 2011

Letting go of grudges.

I'm trying to keep up with my blog but I'm really into the tool to Life and now in week five of the program. It's great and I'm feeling the benefits already. It's a free online life coach website and I strongly recommend you trying it out. Be patient because it's a 90 programme but it's worth it. 

I'm slowing changing and not holding on to grudges. I'm working on letting them go. They are a burden and distracting me from focusing on my own development. Keeping grudges is one burden I can do without. I might start to transfer some of my other bloggie stuff here.


http://toolstolife.com

Monday 18 April 2011

Online Dating: Another day

Online Dating: Another day


I'm on this online dating site where you are matched and you get a guided communication. Now the only issue is that the men put up the most horrible pictures. Pictures with other women called 'friends', blurred pictures and even cropped pictures. I'm told they feel they don't need to make the effort since they are automatically going to be matched with online dates.

I think they are also a bit more fussy than average because they feel the online dating site is going to get them the 'pecfect' match and a few may come away disillustioned with the whole process.

Right now I'm communiting  emailing with two men but no DATE! One is a lot older -I'm like maybe that's why you are still single and the other just copy and pastes emails. I know because the  he sent his previous email as a reply to my last. I really need to start living offline.

To be fair it's not the nicest thing being rejected by the bunch of ugly unkept men - they do this by viewing your profile then clicking on close. These are the kind of men you wouldn't even give the time of day in real life. But the Bonzos became king online.

Thursday 14 April 2011

Online dating: I've finally joined an online dating site

I’ve finally joined an online dating site. It’s pretty cold. I’ve had 44 love matches and no joy. It’s one of those where the matching is done for you. I sit and a furry of suitable and hopefully ideal love matches are sent to me. My ideal matches however it seems okay in theory but not reality. I’ve just started but will keep a tally.

I look at one who has a beard and all this pictures are self-portraits taken on his computer camera. Hmm… So I’m not sure about the beard. It's pointy like a medieval villain and the pictures are rather dark. I might just give it a miss.  His profile is also a bit on the dodgy side but hey it's online dating and at 6am in morning wearing my night grown having woken up alone. I'm feeling rather lonely and I need a man.

This feels me with a desperate feeling that's come down to this. A few clicks but patience and I will meet the man for me. I can't say I'm convinced. Anyway it's a numbers game so I click. That's the coldness of all this. I'm judging people on badly taken pictures and sus profiles. Hmmm....

I'm learning I'm superficial because I don't bother read the profile I just look at the pictures and the height.

Wednesday 13 April 2011

Tool To Life: New Opportunities: do I really want them?

I totally agree about opportunities but I do ask if I do I want to develop these other skills that opportunities may require. I mean thinking, speaking and behaving differently.

Looking at a problem as a situation all of a sudden gives me more control. I see the situation and ways out of it ( opportunities). This is the hard bit. Maybe I like the problem and the pay-off. Grumbling, moaning, complaining and doing about it. Looking for someone else to solve it.

Looking at situations make me realise I have a number of options. A problem is closed. The catch is that these options may be harder to do than just being stuck in a problem. These options may take me out of my comfort zone and require me to do something differently.

You may say why not. Give a good example. I’m out of work and I’ve being applying for work via agencies and job applications. However if I see it as situation I can simply cold call. It’s easy in principle – pick up the phone and ring. But I’m so afraid of rejection and taking to people on the phone that I would rather just complain about the economy and send off duff job applications hoping my luck will change.

I’m overweight. I could just see it as a situation and think ‘Hey let me try something different. Maybe walk or dance in morning or just cook differently.’ I could bake and grill instead of frying. I could see what other foods are there in the supermarket and try new things. But I’d rather just stick to complaining about how fat I am and still keep up my habits.

So it is about finding opportunities but sometimes they are scary and we can be cowardly. How many people here have turned down something because they really deep down scared or afraid or didn’t want to change.

So I’ve learn the first one day – waking up. Second – mindful of my thoughts and third about opportunities.

progress on Tools to Life

Coach Steele of the free life coach program Tools To Life  give tips about lying to yourself. This is what I think

So I lie to myself. I know. It's mostly about food. I buy something saying it will last but it doesn't. I tell myself things don't matter when they do.

I forget the reason why I didn't do things. I take short term solutions and quick fixes.  Okay, I get it.

I just need to be more patient because I realise over the course I've been on this programme I coulde have lost about six pounds. Have I? Nope, I've put on more. I feel I am sinking but I'm trying to stay afloat. Just need to focus and say no to myself. To like myself or at least treat myself like someone I like. Oh boy. It's one of those morning.

Then again the day is mine.  Morning has broken, I can see the sun rising over in the East behind the trees. I hear cars zooming to work and loud ticking of my value 'cheap' clock. An ambulance siren in the distance. And I think well, its okay. As coach said the 'The day is mine.'

So stop complaining which is what I am here. Change my attitude - working on it. No excuses, no reason and just focus on effort and constancy to purpose.

Time for some fresh air.


Try it out. It does help and it's free life coaching!

Tuesday 12 April 2011

Tool To Life: Day Three - Practice vs just doing Free life coaching

So I'm on day three of the free life coach programme Tools to Life and so I've outlined my goals. I've done a task list which I've broken down into steps. I love this site because of the things it makes me think of.

Practice differs from just doing. In each step I need to know what is it I need to acheive. Doh! Some may think isn't it obivious and I'll say yes. But It's one of those things that thought you know you rarely apply it to your actions.

Doing is like just playing a game or singing a song. It's the whole and it takes longer to improve. Doing a target practice is much more effective.

So i'm sort of over-goaled in a way but most of it is stuff I should be already doing as part of my normal routine and I'm just trying to establish that. However I get overwhelmed by just thinking about things. But I'm going to break it down. Break it down so simple it's like knowing that rain drops create floods or stones are created over years by small sediment.

i need to try. I need to focus. I can only by doing and breaking down.  I can only focus by practicing over and over again the things I need till they become my nature.

Monday 11 April 2011

Tool To Life: Day Two - Having a great day - Free life coaching


So I've decided to blog my progress on the Tool  To Life , the free life coach and self improvement website.  I'm feeling great and now I'm on day two.

 My alarm did not work for some reason but I tend to wake up on time so I was only five minutes late.  I sat up and inhaled and exhaled deeply then clapped and managed to mutter 'I'm having a great day'.

Didn't exactly swing out of bed. I sort of stumbled in a haze to the bathroom where I splashed cold water on my face and reached for my tooth brush.

Invasion of thoughts but I keep on 'I'm having a great day'. Then said at the end 'The day was mine.' For a minute I didn't know what to do. I usaully spend a long time in bed before getting out. So I went back to sit on the bed wondering what next.

Why not get on with some excercise I thought and plan the rest of the day. So I did a bit of Ta Chi then logged in to this day two. Overall, I don't feel the time squeeze I usaully do in the morning and now as part of day two I am practising mindfulness. Being aware of what I say and think.

I do feel better and great. I had a great day yesterday where it was sunny day and I went to the park.  I've outlined a few goals but I use something esle of that. Things are good. I do know now I have to lose wieght because I am too heavy so I might log that as a goal here.

Oh also realised I had a commitment issue to my goals.

So things are good and I'm off to start my day. Remembering to be aware of how I think and what I say.  Mindfulness.



I'm excited to be starting this free life coach programme. I have a few goals I'd like to achieve but the Coach is right. Start the day by swinging out of bed like when I was a kid.

All I can say is guys join while this programme is FREE! It will change the way you think of things in your life! I also gives me something to blog about.  As I said I'm not paid to do this but think it's selfish not to spread the word!
http://toolstolife.com/

Sunday 10 April 2011

Tool To Life: Day One - Having a great day - Free life coaching

Free Life Coach Programme


So I've decided to blog my progress on the Tool  To Life , the free life coach and self improvement website.  I'm feeling great and now I'm on day 11 however I've decided to double blog. There are a few goals I'd like to acheive. Coach Steele is great and a solid motivator.

I'm excited to be starting this free life coach programme. I have a few goals I'd like to achieve but the Coach is right.
Start the day by swinging out of bed like when I was a kid.

Starting point.

Well I'm just starting, I need to get on and I think this free life coach and self improvement site will help. Now I just sit up in bed, overthink and end up draining my thought process. So tomorrow I'm going to start. I've written it down and going to post it by my bed so I just do it.

So I guess I'm happy to have completed day one and looking forward to implementing it.

All I can say is guys join while this programme is FREE! It will change the way you think of things in your life!

As I said I'm not paid to do this but think it's selfish not to spread the word!


http://toolstolife.com/

Wednesday 6 April 2011

Words - Sticks and stones

Sticks and stones
May break my bones
But words will never hurt me.


We have all heard that but still blame others for what they did to us. Some say their parents never told them they 'loved' them and that is why things are not right.

So it is true?  Well, I think the above is true however on the deeper level it is about the intent behind the words and whether we have a certain reaction to it. Things are really about intent. The words winner, loser, happy, mad, crazy, failure, success - all have emotions tied to them.  This is why as time goes on people stop using certain words or use them with a new meaning. So it's really the meaning we associate to words and the intent behind them that can harm or affect us.

Tuesday 5 April 2011

Amazing site for a free online life coach Tools For Life

I've found an amazing site for free life coaching called Tools For Life by a life coach called Devlin Steele.

It's a free life coach ninety day programme/program and each day has  a great life coach theme. I'm not sure how many people finish it but I'm on day  nine. It can ge a bit long but it depends how long you want to study it for.

You can't rush through the programme as there is a sixteen hour count down lock. So you can do a day every sixteen hours I guess. Now in the evening I'm still on my day so I won't be able to do a proceed till the next day ten till after mid-morning tomorrow.

Today I'm going through life coach goals. It's about laws of accumulation and how everything you do adds up. I know it's common sense but it's way he says it.

Also how sometimes we state the results of goals rather than a goal. So I want to be rich. Well that is really a result of what you acheive. I want to be a rock star. That is really a result of being an successful singer. But they are really goals in thier own end. They are just the result of goals.

On day nine Coach Steele give the low down on goal setting. It's excellent. He goes into his philosoppy of setting goals and it's really worth just saying the course/program for that. It's free! I'm not sure how it is maintained but it's an excellent resourse and worthwhile signing up while it is free.

I have joined a few others on the site but I'll say it's Coach Steele that has kept me going. I also have to keep a blog there so I might just republish it here.  Those are mostly my thoughts. But please, I'm not getting paid however for a free life coaching tool go to Tools for Life on http://toolstolife.com/. Try it you nothing to lose and all to gain. xxx

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